This has been one of those weeks where there’s more doing than thinking. There’s more “mental self-care” than normal. What I mean by that is, sometimes there are those weeks where you have to lean into the things you can REALLY trust in— those truths and mantras that break down all the self-doubt that will let you pause, or quit, if you let the pattern go on long enough. I almost didn’t write this blog post. I almost recycled an old one and curled up with a book, but I thought it might be helpful for all of us if I doubled down on those truths and shared the ones I’ve been playing on repeat lately. I’m not going to defend them or explain them. You don’t have to adopt them, but when the inner critic starts to come out, it’s really important to have things that have the strength and simplicity to break down the bad thoughts, so here we go:
1. All things work together for the good of those who love God.
2. I can do difficult things; just take it one step at a time.
3. We aim for little improvements, not perfection. Consistency will win.
4. Not my circus, not my monkeys.
5. We are allowed to make a big deal out of things that are important to us.
6. Doing things WHILE I’m embarrassed builds confidence.
7. Beginner doesn’t mean bad. I’m capable of mastering new skills that I put my mind to.
8. Who told you that? (This is for when you tell yourself your incapable of xyz)
9. What’s the worst that could happen? (Idk why, but actually naming the worst case scenario really works bc a lot of times the worst
case is embarrassment)
10. I bring value to the table.
After I speak these kinds of things, I normally find a bathroom to make a big power pose or say kind facts about myself (like, things I’m proud of about myself) It’s a process, but it works, even if I have to break things down more than once.
Self doubt is difficult to master, but you can do difficult things ;) I’m cheering for you!